You are busy. Probably too busy. There is always more work to do, another problem to solve, another reason to stay heads down and keep going. The people around you are there, technically. But somewhere along the way you stopped really showing up to them and they stopped really reaching you.

You would not call it loneliness. That is not the word that comes to mind. You would probably say you are stressed, or tired, or just have a lot going on right now.

But if you are honest, something feels missing. And it has for a while.

It comes out of nowhere. Your heart is pounding, your chest is tight, you cannot catch your breath, and some part of your brain is convinced something is seriously wrong. You might have thought you were having a heart attack. You might have ended up in an ER only to be told everything checked out fine.

A panic attack feels like a medical emergency because your body is treating it like one.

Here is what is actually happening.

You are good in a crisis. Always have been. When everything goes sideways, you are the one who stays calm, figures out the next move, and keeps things from falling apart. You do not panic. You do not freeze. You handle it.

You have managed a schedule, mediated a conflict, answered seventeen questions before 9am, remembered the permission slip, rescheduled the appointment, and kept approximately four other people's lives running on time. And yet, standing in front of the refrigerator at 6pm, you cannot make one more decision to save your life.

You made it through the day. The meetings, the emails, the kids, the mental load of approximately nine thousand small decisions. You finally lie down and your brain decides now is a great time to replay that mildly awkward thing you said three weeks ago like it was a federal offense.

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